Avoid Black Hole Humans (haters gonna hate)

I smile at everybody, try to brighten their day. Okay not everybody. I’m human! But one thing I have found makes me happier, and the world a better place, is smiling and spreading positivity. Sometimes it even works to reverse an incoming scowl. While I was living in India – in an area where you … Continue reading Avoid Black Hole Humans (haters gonna hate)

Self-pity was dragging me down but I think I found the antedote

Last week I wrote about feeling guilty that I’m not doing enough. About struggling to follow the message I received to “Relax and enjoy.” In retrospect, I feel like that might have been self-pity. I really can't stand self-pity, especially in myself. It makes me kind of throw up in my mouth a bit. The … Continue reading Self-pity was dragging me down but I think I found the antedote

I hear the message “Relax and enjoy” but I don’t know what to do about it

guiltYou know when you keep getting the same message from multiple sources? For a couple of weeks, I kept getting “Relax and enjoy”. I heard it during meditation, and from important people in my life. But how to do it? I’ve pondered this over the past couple of weeks, even though I’m pretty sure over-thinking … Continue reading I hear the message “Relax and enjoy” but I don’t know what to do about it

The cruelty of “How are you”

My friend used to ask me, “How are you?” all the time. She’d ask me Every. Day. “Good morning! How are you?” Ugh. It was the worst. What kind of question is that, anyway? “How are you.” What’s with that? Is she seriously expecting an answer? How does one even respond to such an inane … Continue reading The cruelty of “How are you”

When my worst nightmare of public humiliation came true

I’m in the living room of a girlfriend with her, my husband, and a mutual friend who is staying at her place while he’s in town. He has a background in music and South American culture, and he’s tinkering on the piano. My friend suggests he teach me how to salsa. “No thanks,” I say, … Continue reading When my worst nightmare of public humiliation came true